On Relationships - A Follow Up

Wow. Apparently the last 3 entries I made on Relationship has gotten some people quite riled up, and a number of people have taken umbrage to what I had to say.  Strangely enough – individuals prefer to write me individually rather than to place a comment in public. Perhaps it is because they want to save me the “embarrassment” of  facing disagreements shown to the public (though it is perfectly okay to do so). Another possibility may be that dropping me a note privately offers a more personal touch such that it does not come across as a “picking a fight” type deal.  I am not sure. But whatever the reason, I am grateful for the responses – though it has not changed the position I took in my entries.  After all, as I said to one person – we are all entitled to our own opinion regardless how disillusioned it may be (and that applies to my own opinion as well).  I have proclaimed to want to keep an open mind and to be attached to nothing as an “absolute truth.” After all, we are all humans and will undoubtedly make mistakes throughout our lives.  Yet, I am of the opinion that we must all make our own mistakes and find our own meaning in our individual lives.  While, I welcome the opinions of others – and they may even sometimes bring a shift to my own way of thinking and/or looking at things, I also believe strongly that we must be willing to take a stand for what we believe and what we feel. Hence, keep an open mind, be willing to consider the point of view from another, question our own realities and values – but at the end of the day, when one has done his/her own examination, consideration, evaluation and so forth – be true to your own heart and your own calling. We cannot be anything else but ourselves.

Hence, thank you for those of you who wrote me a note in response to your view on what I had written. I do truly appreciate them. However, for now at least, my position (my feelings) remain unchanged.

I won’t go into a “defense” of what I had written. I think I have made my position clear – and there was no “misunderstanding” (though there were a number of “disagreeing”) with what I had said.  For today, if you will, allow me to just post some pictures or quotes I think are relevant in either shaping my view of supporting how I feel.  I hope these will not send out pins and needles that will “poke” at your being or worse yet arrows and daggers that hurt or inflict pain in your heart.  Be free to choose how you live your life and how you view your relationships (or lack thereof).  Be free to be happy the way you want to be happy.  I wish you (and myself) all the happiness that we can muster in this life time.

Shalom,

Syl

 Yeah - like I said previously, the physical, the romantic, and even the sexual intimacy seem a lot less important today then they did when I was in my youth.  This is not to say that they are not important or that those who seek that are necessarily wrong or immature.  It is just not that significant to me any more.  What I value (and therefore "seek") consists of the inner stuff - the sharing of - the viewing of life and all that as being more important to me - NOW.