"Shit Happens"

"Shit happens – Everything happens for a reason"

Indeed, shit happens. Everyday.  To be healthy, it is believed that we should have bowel movements once a day, right? This is a natural and healthy process that our bodies know to do daily.  And it does this because it needs to eliminate “waste” product from our bodies. Our physical body.

Wouldn’t it make sense then that perhaps the same is true for our emotional body? That is – we need to take a crap daily? To remove similar emotional “waste” from our body?

A doctor friend of mine recently wrote in her FB status: “everything happens for a reason. shit happens.” And when I pointed out to her “ Yes. Shit happens everyday. so that we clean out our system.” She replied with a “cut the toxic out of your life (tongue emoticon)”

Indeed. It is a daily process – to remove the toxicity from our lives – the toxic people, the toxic ideas, the toxic situations. (Not: toxic does not imply bad as in evil – but rather those things, events, people that do not enrich us .. do not help us to feel good about ourselves or our lives.)  It is a process. In fact, it should be a daily process – to cleanse our souls from the things that do not benefit is .. and if they do, then rejoice, be grateful for them and the shit is no longer shit, right? Make sense?

Many people, in fact all of us – at one point or another will lament the “shit” that is in our lives. In all our lives. We all experience those “down” times. And it ok to SOL as opposed to LOL (Shout Out Loud instead of Laugh Out Loud). Shout it at the top of your voice – “this is shit.” It’s perfectly ok to do that. It’s call venting and can be cathartic. But when the emotions simmer down – and we are able to be who we truly are – the spirit within – “a spiritual being having a human experience” – we will be able to go beyond that “shit and recognize that indeed “everything happens for a reason.”  There is something to be gained .. to be learned in all situations be they “good” or “bad.” If we believe in a Divine all-knowing being that is Greater than us all – then we must surely know (not just believe) that all things indeed have a purpose for us.

Many people resent being told this – that “there is a reason for everything.” No doubt this is understandable. But it is our emotions of the moment – our EGO – that make us resist that notion. Not just resist but even resent it. No – in the midst of pain (and fear) – those words are meaningless. They may even like salt in a wound. Pain, right? But then … salt in a wound can help in the healing process, right? Or alcohol. Imagine when you put alcohol to your wound to clean the wound and prevent infection. Doesn’t that just bite? Sure there is pain – but behind that pain, is a process of healing – of cleansing. They say that time heals all wounds. In fact, it is not time that heals .. it is US (you and me – not the United States).  It is how we interpret that wound. It is how we respond to that wound. We can send it love and begin the healing process, or we can continue to focus negatively on it and keep the wound alive. The choice is ours. It has always been ours. In fact, there is a saying that goes, "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger."

Some people tell me this concept is a cop-out.  It is just to make ourselves feel better. Just like the idea of a god. There is no god, they say. It’s just a concept humans made up to make ourselves feel better in the face of adversity and pain. My response? And so it may be. So what? Does the idea cause me more pain? Does it cause me harm in anyway? If it does not, and it makes you stronger and helps you pick yourself up – then why not? Do it. Change your perspective. Choose to be happy. It’s up to you. You can choose to live day-to-day cursing life and complaining that “shit happens – and it always happens to me.” Or you can take the so called “bad” and make it into something that benefits you. Let that be a choice. Your choice. 

Peace

Syl